Weight Loss 101: Why we struggle with our choices around food!
Why do we let go of what sustains us?
Often weight loss is associated with happiness, vitality, worthiness, love and being good enough. This happens because we see a certain physique as being beautiful, perfect, acceptable and unrejectable.
But the truth is; when we don't appreciate our bodies as they are and we are unhappy in a number of areas including emotionally mentally or physically not taking care of ourselves we often project this onto a body.
How to be more confident in social settings.
Sometimes in an effort to make more time for the new and other times, more often I think because doing what works for us doesn't feel important enough. That the elusive promise of better, has us holding our breaths, doing more, being less and chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
Managing your anger effectively
I was asked to write about being more confident especially in social situations. I have shared a few key points in this piece that over the years have come to be the foundation to a lot of the confidence coaching I do, as well as social anxiety recovery group work with StepOut Ireland Cork and Dublin.
Whether your introvert, quiet, experience social anxiety or are the life and soul of the party, need to get drunk or high to engage people; confidence in social settings always begins by playing to your authentic strengths and focusing on what you bring to the situation.
Rejection & Responsibility.
Anger is a powerful and helpful emotion. The issue is we often mis-use it and blame it for our actions and choices. It is an emotion, often primitive in its nature however so is happiness and lust, yet most people learn to regulate these, then why is anger so different in our social understanding?
Coaching For Perfectionism
So many of us think that if someone would just give us a break then we could flourish and achieve our potential. I see it with musicians, executives, artists, writers and the list goes on. I see it in most professions. We are waiting to be seen, valued and respected, we are waiting for someone to say YES you have worth. So we can start to finally believe it and feel we do.
Our Needs are Equal to Others
Perfectionism is a tactic to cover up our fear of inadequacy.
Flourishing - Living a fulfilled life
Self Care isn't about our needs being more important than others it's about them being equal to others. Although they are equal, we as adults are always responsible for our own needs being met and how we go about that.
People Pleasing & Hustling for Approval.
Using positive psychology flourishing practices to thrive personally and professionally.
Our Making Meaning Tendencies
When we hustle we start trading our needs, want and experiences for the approval of others. We morph into a version of ourselves rather than be ourselves.
Achieve your goals in 5 simple steps !
It is a natural response to life, to make meaning of situations and experiences. In times of tragedy often making meaning about continuing can be very helpful. After extremely painful or traumatic events, we need to make sense of it and often the events themselves don't make sense so we need to make it mean something.
Are you racing through your life to the next 'thing'?
Wanting something is rarely enough of a motivation to actually achieve it. These 5 steps help you uncover the additional stages to integrate lasting success.
Self Love - A Quick Read
Goals are great, I literally make my living off supporting people in achieving personal and professional goals. At times though, goals are the actual interference and limitation to what you are really trying to achieve.
Busy, avoiding discomfort?
Self-love isn't just a feeling, its a choice, a set of actions. Brene Brown puts a lovely spin on it!
Why Fitting in really doesn't work!
We get busy sometimes as a great way to avoid certain feelings. We can get trapped in a cycle of doing without actually understanding why.
Fitting in is all about molding ourselves to our perceptions of others view of us. Its not only exhuasting its also a big waste of time.
Self doubt can creep into the most mundane decisions and leave us paralyzed with thoughts of what we should do and what will others think.