Do You Feel Like an Imposter?
Imposter Syndrome is a false belief about ourselves that has us doubting our ability, capacity, and achievements. A person who experiences Imposter Syndrome may feel like they do not fit in and they are never ‘good enough’. We all have our moments of doubt, a hidden vulnerability. However, if that vulnerability becomes a significant part of your personality, you begin to view yourself in a negative way and are prevented from reaching your full potential.
Are you focusing on the little things that went wrong today? Do you blame yourself for them? Are you searching for ways you could have done better? At your job? At home? Does it feel like everything you do is wrong in some way?
Flirting: You’re Doing It Wrong
Laundry: You’re Doing It Wrong
Lunch: You’re Doing It Wrong
Parenting: You’re Doing It Wrong
Happiness: You’re Doing It Wrong
Sadness: You’re Doing It Wrong
A Trick of Perspective
In the Tilted podcast episode on ‘Imposter Syndrome’, Sile Walsh talks about the ways Imposter Syndrome shows itself. She discusses how it can affect anyone and, surprisingly, it often presents itself in higher achievers. The higher the achiever, the more prominent the imposter syndrome experience can be.
We could exceed expectations and still not appreciate the achievements we’ve made.
This becomes a blinding view of seeing our flaws more clearer than our successes.
Additionally, a person with Imposter Syndrome will constantly compare themselves to others. This is a trick of perspective- seeing other people on their terms, with only the side they show to the world. Although it seems almost everyone else has life figured out, each person’s story is more than what is viewed on the surface. Imposter syndrome shrinks the value of your success into a minuscule part of you and you begin to focus on what isn’t there.
If you have a long list of things that you should or need to do to be good enough. If you are going around in circles searching for an impossible validation.
What Can You Do About It?
Coaching Sessions will provide you with multiple methods for dealing with imposter syndrome. If you are experiencing symptoms, focus on ways to change your mindset into a more positive mindset about yourself.
1. Time to start validating what you have done- Just because something is not a groundbreaking discovery, does not mean it hasn’t contributed to the successes in your life. Appreciate yourself for getting you to where you are and adore the life you have for everything it is.
2. Look at what you are trying to achieve- This allows you to take a step back and look forward with a better view of your reality.
3. Why are you thinking you are not good enough? It is not a negative thing to work towards improving your life, but you cannot be more than what you are. Talk about how you feel and why you may not feel ‘good enough’. Give yourself affirmation that you are good enough and applaud your achievements.
Flirting: You’re Doing It
Laundry: You’re Doing It
Lunch: You’re Doing It
Parenting: You’re Doing It
Happiness: You’re Doing It
You’re Doing It
“Imposter syndrome is really a way of viewing yourself within the world and that by shifting that, you feel more content, you can be clearer about your direction, and you can go forward with a more functional, doable, practical plan.” -Sile Walsh
If you would like more information about coaching sessions, contact Sile Walsh.